Questions we’re frequently asked
(1) Do you “bash” the JWs at your gatherings?
No. Our group is not interested in participating in retaliation against the Watchtower organization. However, there will be individual members who, while well-meaning, speak angrily about their experiences in the organization, expressing a desire for retribution. These individuals are on the path to recovery, and are feeling and expressing anger towards the Society in the process. We endeavor to keep the emphasis of our gatherings positive, light-hearted and fun, while at the same time recognizing the seriousness of the need for encouragement, allowing members to process their feelings in a healthy way.
(2) Are you a group of Atheists or Christians?
We are a faith-neutral group and we have members and organisers of different faiths and of none. We have members and organisers with their own personal views on faith but we do not take any sides in debates about the existence of a God or gods.
We also have meetups where leaving high-control religion is discussed and we often share events with certain ex-Muslim, ex-Ultra-Orthodox Jew and ex-Mormon groups. However, as a faith-neutral group, we do not discuss the truth or falsehood of religious claims, we focus on the experiences of those who have left high-control groups.
(3) I’m still an active Witness. Can I still come to your gatherings?
Absolutely! Keeping in mind that there will be disassociated and/or disfellowshipped individuals in attendance, the decision is yours as to whether or not to come. If you would feel more comfortable with a more one-on-one meeting with one of our organisers just for you to feel at ease, we could arrange to meet you in a public place such as a coffee shop or restaurant instead.
(4) Will anyone report my attendance at an xJw Friends gathering to my congregation?
We ask our membership to respect everyone’s anonymity. No one’s name or picture would ever appear on any xJw Friends website without the individual’s express permission, and we are careful not to divulge the identities of any attendees to anyone without asking them for permission first.